What would I do without your smart mouth?
Drawing me in, and you kicking me out
You’ve got my head spinning, no kidding, I can’t pin you down
What’s going on in that beautiful mind
I’m on your magical mystery ride
And I’m so dizzy, don’t know what hit me, but I’ll be alright
My head’s under water
But I’m breathing fine
You’re crazy and I’m out of my mind
‘Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I’ll give my all to you
You’re my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I’m winning
‘Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you, oh oh
John Legend song, ‘All of me’.
This song is the perfect introduction for the article. It says it all in the phrase, ‘Give me all of you’ and ‘I will give you all of me’. The best relationships are based on the giving principle. You give something to receive something. For example, you give love to receive love in return.
However, it’s not exactly that simple!
A great story
A man invites a woman to visit him at home. She said she had no money for transportation, so he paid for her to come. Of course, he hoped she would reciprocate by spending time with him and having sex. However, she was not ready to sleep with him. Not on that day. Not yet!
So, she refused his advances which got him mad.
He therefore refused to fund her travel back home after the date broke down. This then led to some social media story and all manner of comments from Nigerians. Unfortunately, it takes an unsophisticated man to behave in this manner. You see, the woman must definitely likely fancy him to have decided to go see him anyway. She needed reassurances that would enable her accede to his requests. She gave a little and with a promise that the prize had to be earned.
He wanted all the cake and more, right then and right there. Definitely, an inapt and inept suitor! I suspect he would have had the world at his feet had he remained a gentleman, scoring points with care, concern and attention. He needed to give without expecting anything in return.
But, of course, you cannot give what you don’t have.
Here is love lesson 101
What does a woman need to do to get to a man’s heart? The answer is a little. Give a little, but promise a lot. A woman who keeps the man longing for more, will have a man for keeps. This is the way it works. Show a man you like him and you care about him. He will be interested in finding out more. He would want to know exactly how much you like him and how much you care for him.
You must show just enough of the apple to get his juices flowing. Just a little!
What does a man need to do to get to a woman’s heart? The answer is care with reckless abandon. A man who shows a woman he cares about her will get her to lower her guards and give him love.
There, however, lies the conundrum!
A woman must and should not give more than a little, lest the man takes it all for granted. He then loses respect and the need to please her. A woman must therefore always have something in reserve to keep him wanting to please her. So, make sure he knows there’s more to you than what he has seen or experienced.
He won’t wait to please you, so he can get more!
You see, for him to get more, he has to show more care and give love. This develops a wonderful scenario of give and take which keeps the relationship alive. The man gives care, love and attention and he gets love and sex in return. The sex keeps him sweet so he gives more love to get more sex. Women just want to give love. But, they want love in return. When they get the love, they can give sex. But, they have much more than sex because they can become your life partner, greatest confidante and your backbone!
Its’ really that simple!
In conclusion, the way to a man’s heart is through love and great sex. The way to a woman’s heart is through love, care and undivided attention. One useful thing to understand is that the woman must not make sex the object of the relationship. A woman should not use sex as the bargaining chip or the commodity of exchange. What keeps him coming back for more must be more than just the sex. Sex does not endure! In the same vein, a man should not use money or power. They are also ephemeral.
When you find the one, just give love!